insecurity

Developing Attachment Strategies

 By the time we are toddlers we have developed strategies that help us navigate relationships.  We learn from interactions with our caregivers that behavior brings forth different responses.  A baby cries out, communicating distress: “I’m hungry, my diaper needs changing, I need to be held” - mom responds with reassuring tones: “It’s OK, I’m here, now let’s see what you need.” Mom feels warm and touched as her soothing responses help the child relax.  They feel a secure attachment. Both feel joy and comfort in the pleasure of being known for what they experience.