Food for Thought

"We become attached to what is familiar, and sometimes we hold onto things that are safe and predictable, even if they are bad for us."

John Bowlby

"Everything we observe in ourselves and in others emerges from the interaction between what is observed and the eyes that are observing."

Bernard Brandchaft

" Poetry is when an emotion has found it's thought and the thought has found words."

Robert Frost

" What is a normal child like? Does he just eat and grow and smile sweetly?  No that is not what he is like.  The normal child, if he has confidence in mother and father, pulls out all the stops. In the course of time, he tries out his power to disrupt, to destroy, to frighten, to wear down, to waste, to wangle, and to appropriate . . . At the start he absolutely needs to live in a circle of love and strength (with consequent tolerance) if he is not to be too fearful of his own thoughts and of his imaginings to make progress in his emotional development.”

D.W.Winnicott

"Depression comes about from depressing things that occur."

George Atwood

"The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change, until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds."

R.D. Laing

"Speak what we feel, not what we ought to say."

William Shakespeare

“But you know it's hard to tell when you're in the spell if it's wrong or if it's real,
But you're bound to lose if you let the blues get you scared to feel”

Joni Mitchell

"I define nothing. Not beauty, not patriotism. I take each thing as it is, without prior rules about what it should be."

Bob Dylan

"On a basic level, this music led me to a deeper respect for myself. In order to improvise something meaningful, I had to find and express whatever I had inside of me worth sharing with other people. But at the same time it led me to a new awareness of others, because my freedom of expression was directly linked to the freedom of others on the bandstand. I had something to say, and so did they. The freer they were, the freer I could be, and vice versa. To be heard demanded that we also listened to one another. Closely. And to sound good we had to trust one another.”

Wynton Marsalis

“All I do know is as we age, the weight of our unsorted baggage becomes heavier . . . much heavier. With each passing year, the price of our refusal to do that sorting rises higher and higher. . . . Long ago, the defenses I built to withstand the stress of my childhood, to save what I had of myself, outlived their usefulness, and I’ve become an abuser of their once lifesaving powers. I relied on them wrongly to isolate myself, seal my alienation, cut me off from life, control others, and contain my emotions to a damaging degree. Now the bill collector is knocking, and his payment’ll be in tears.”  Esquire Magazine Interview, December 2018

Bruce Springsteen

"When my traumatized states could not find a relational home, I became deadened, and my world became dulled.  When such a home became once again present, I came alive, and the vividness of my world returned."

Robert Stolorow

"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch." 

E.E. Cummings

"There is nothing so stable as change."

Bob Dylan

"If you limit your actions in life to things that nobody can possibly find fault with, you will not do much!"

Lewis Carroll

"I meant what I said and I said what I meant."

Dr. Seuss

"But the essence of art, the essence of artistic creativity, is precisely that which is not determined, namely the emergence of something new.  The essence of art is freedom."

Sabert Basescu