By the time we are toddlers we have developed strategies that help us navigate relationships.  We learn from interactions with our caregivers that behavior brings forth different responses.  A baby cries out, communicating distress: “I’m hungry, my diaper needs changing, I need to be held” - mom responds with reassuring tones: “It’s OK, I’m here, now let’s see what you need.” Mom feels warm and touched as her soothing responses help the child relax.  They feel a secure attachment. Both feel joy and comfort in the pleasure of being known for what they experience.